When you first hear of a Date Night you may think, “That’s pretty lame. You have to schedule a night to hang out with your significant other?” Um, yes you definitely do! Once kids come into the picture, your world is turned upside down – for the better of course – but nonetheless a total life 360. Mix in working full time and it’s a whole new world.
You don’t realize it right away. You are so excited to finally get a schedule for the kids in place…feeding, sleeping, diapering. The days all meld into each other. Wake up, get ready for work, get the kids fed and ready for school/pre-school, drop them off, go to work, leave work, pick the kids up, make dinner, do homework, bathe and read a book, bed time. Wash, rinse, repeat. It feels that the only time you see your significant other is bedtime, and you are so exhausted that the conversation is minimal before your eyes close…and then it starts all over again.
This is when Date Night comes in. You need to schedule time with your significant other. It just has to happen. Pick a restaurant you both like, get tickets to a movie that you’ve been wanting to see but chalked it off as never happening because you have no time…make time. Literally add it to your calendar like an appointment. Secure a babysitter and figure out what awesome outfit you are going to wear that is going to make you feel GREAT.
OK so pretend it is finally date night! You are all dressed and ready to go, the babysitter arrived and you are in the car on the way to <<insert location here>>. This is precious time. Reconnect with each other and really listen to each other and ask about what’s going on. Enjoy each other and try not to talk about the kids. It’s hard…but it can happen!
I look forward to our date nights. We try to find different restaurants to try out, as R is a foodie. We talk about work and the stock market (him) and fashion and all of the packages that Fed Ex and UPS brought us (that’s me defending my online shopping LOL). At the end of the night we feel more connected, a little warm and fuzzy – not because of anything other than being together.
Try it…date night. Once you go out that first time, you will want to make it a ritual. Monthly or biweekly if you can squeeze it in! Where are your favorite places for date night?