Relationships can change as much as people do. And sometimes your relationship can start to feel a little ‘samey’, or it can be filled with arguments you never used to have, and the day you realise this can really bother you! But what can you do to make a difference, and in the right direction? Here are some great ways to find common ground with your partner and make a positive change you can both benefit from.
Talk AND Listen
You want to get your point of view across to your partner, of course, but are you stopping to listen to their side of things too? It’s a hard thing to admit, but rarely is there someone who’s totally right and someone who’s totally wrong in a relationship! You need to be able to sit down and let your partner take the stage for a bit, because you’ll only be able to work towards a solution when everyone has said their piece. And that in itself is a positive change!
Do Something Out of the Blue
Being spontaneous in a relationship can really stamp out the feeling of boredom you may be having. And even little things that change the course of an evening will do the trick here. Maybe you should go on a date night for the first time in forever? Maybe you should head out on a road trip together to somewhere random and see what you find? Maybe you should go to the theater or the cinema one night, rather than stay in and watch Netflix? Anything works, as long as you can do it together.
See a Therapist
Going to couples therapy can be intimidating, we know! It can feel like a sign that your relationship is going wrong, or headed in a direction you never wanted to consider. But therapy is just a tool to use; you get out of it what you put into it. You don’t have to be on the verge of breaking up either; you clearly just need a bit of impartial space to work through a few things. But don’t just take our word for it – you can check out this article, Myths Debunked: Misconceptions About Couples Therapy and see if your view of relationship counselling can be changed.
Use Your Partner’s Love Language
We all have our own love language, and your partner’s may be wildly different to your own. But why not work with that? As long as you know the way in which they recognise love, you can give them a clue into how strongly you still feel about them. Sometimes all we need is a reminder that someone loves us! Whether your partner loves gifts or acts or service or they’re a compliment machine, pay them a little something in kind that comes as a surprise and you’ll soon notice your relationship taking a turn for the better.
Changing your relationship takes time, but these ideas will get the ball rolling.